. . . how does one forgive another? I know that its possibility depends on the degree of the injustice, including who hurt you and the motive. But how do you actually forgive? It took me a long time to realize that time doesn't heal all wounds, rather, it provides us the emotional distance from the event to learn to bear with it. Healing and growth is involved, I know, also the action of "letting go." But there is a line between what should and can be let go, and what should be the deciding factor to part ways.
I guess I'm struggling with this grey area, where I have tried to find meaning in the other person's upbringing, point of view, thought process, and emotional deficiencies. Not necessarily to justify what was done, but to understand the scope of the person's emotional capacity and accept that people have limits. Some try to combat those limits and grow, while others remain stunted, either by choice or capacity.
Does it come down to what's more important: the injustice, the grudge, what's left of the relationship, or moving on with your own life? Is it considered a grudge (meaning it has the potential to harm you because you're holding onto such negative and toxic emotions), or is it wisdom? I do believe that it's possible to forgive without forgetting, but I don't know if I'm deluding myself.
